So as you can probably guess from the silence on this blog, things have continued being not very exciting for me. That's going to change in a few months; we've grown jack of the suburbs and we're going to downsize and move back into the city. It'll be good for both of us for a lot of reasons, one of which being we'll be able to get back out to community events more often again.
But that's not what I'm here to write about today.
A couple of days ago I did a hook pull!
I did a quick google to try and find an easy page to link you to if you're not familiar with it, but I'm coming up pretty dry so I'll say this: on sunday, I had 6g hooks shoved through my back flesh that I then pulled against, for fun. Want to see a picture?
I'm not a masochist. I didn't do it for the pain rush or anything like that. I mostly did it "because I can", because it's something extraordinary, because I like having extraordinary experiences.
What went on in my head during it is mine and mine alone so I won't be going into that here. But it was a very interesting experience and nothing like I expected. I also came out of it thinking I might do it again, which surprised me - I thought I'd come out of it with a kind of "well it's off the bucket list now I'm never doing it again" attitude, but actually, I think I might.
Taking the sticky dressing off a very hair back the next day was infinitely more painful than anything involving the hooks, by the way. :p
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Wednesday, August 13, 2014
Tuesday, January 15, 2013
Power Trip
The little thrills of power intoxication have started. Just little ones. Pet and I aren't far enough into this for me to get drunk on power just yet, but there are the small moments that warm my belly.
When I look at her septum piercing. Knowing; I did that. I chose it, I paid for it, I made the decisions about the jewellery and the location and the piercer. That ring is mine. That hole in her body is mine. She wears it because it pleases me and she won't remove it without permission. She cannot hide it; it marks her as something outside the norm and that's now inescapable. My presence on her body is inescapable.
Even when she is at home my control is slipping into her life, not just her body. She emails me every night to let me know she's done her chores and she's going to bed (so I know she's going to bed on time).
I get that email and I feel warm. She is doing as she is told, and she is keeping me informed. She is conscious of me. I am boring my way into her mind, becoming an inescapable presence in her actions and thoughts as well as her body. I am the all seeing eye.
She now has to do ten minutes of kitchen housework daily even when she is not at my house. Knowing she is doing housework, even if she's not at my house, because I have told her to, is good. Housework isn't much fun at the best of times, and her doing housework at her house does not have an obvious benefit for me. Obviously there are plenty of indirect benefits but that's not the point of this post. Bottom line, she is doing it because I told her to do it. That makes me feel warm.
She is obeying. Her obedience is the tangible expression of my control.
When I look at her septum piercing. Knowing; I did that. I chose it, I paid for it, I made the decisions about the jewellery and the location and the piercer. That ring is mine. That hole in her body is mine. She wears it because it pleases me and she won't remove it without permission. She cannot hide it; it marks her as something outside the norm and that's now inescapable. My presence on her body is inescapable.
Even when she is at home my control is slipping into her life, not just her body. She emails me every night to let me know she's done her chores and she's going to bed (so I know she's going to bed on time).
I get that email and I feel warm. She is doing as she is told, and she is keeping me informed. She is conscious of me. I am boring my way into her mind, becoming an inescapable presence in her actions and thoughts as well as her body. I am the all seeing eye.
She now has to do ten minutes of kitchen housework daily even when she is not at my house. Knowing she is doing housework, even if she's not at my house, because I have told her to, is good. Housework isn't much fun at the best of times, and her doing housework at her house does not have an obvious benefit for me. Obviously there are plenty of indirect benefits but that's not the point of this post. Bottom line, she is doing it because I told her to do it. That makes me feel warm.
She is obeying. Her obedience is the tangible expression of my control.
Wednesday, January 9, 2013
Big Update
Hello, hello! Happy new year!
I had meant to do a big round up of 2012 before it ended but, well, as you can see, I didn't get around to it. I have a lot to update you on, so I figure it's time for a nice generic What's Been Happening sort of blog post.
Pet and I had our renegotiation on January 4th. Rather than explicitly state our next renegotiation is in six months, in six months we'll discuss whether we want to renegotiate or simply extend the period for another six months.
Not a huge amount changed, it was more that a lot of areas were simplified. I now control much more of her life than I did previously, but she still has complete freedom in some areas (such as her money and her sexual life). It's all in a good place that I feel good about, and I am enjoying this level of control while maintaining a level of irresponsibility. It's a sweet spot :) Don't get me wrong, I am looking forward to the deeper slavery type stuff eventually, but just because there's a goal doesn't mean I can't enjoy the ride an awful lot.
One thing that did change was that I now have complete control of her physical presentation, barring tattoos. It'll take some time before that effect will really be obvious (since I am not made of money and can't afford to just replace all her clothes in one fell swoop) but I did want to mark the occasion with something special so I took her to Piercing HQ, a kinkster owned piercing studio here in Melbourne, and I got her a septum piercing with a ring for the jewellery.
I'm not sure why, but septum rings have always appealed to me as a submissive piercing. *shrugs*!
I don't think people understand just how boring the negotiation process is - especially when it's run by me, and I'm terribly anal retentive and love paperwork a whole lot.
I mean we literally spend hours going over limits and boundaries and what powers I do and don't have. My limits and boundaries too, by the way, not just hers. We talk about potential issues and how they should be resolved. We talk about rules and protocols and punishments. For most people, it's an incredibly boring session of talking about boring things.
But I feel good when I have these talks. It lays everything out so there are no surprises. It lowers the chances of drama.
And I don't mind taking so long with these things. Pet and I are working towards a lifetime commitment. I see no reason why we shouldn't be taking it as slowly and carefully as possible.
The other big thing that happened was the solidifying of our hierarchy. Boy and pet had their own negotiation that I facilitated and also took part in, to work out their own thing. As it stands now, they also have a slight power exchange relationship. Boy wants to exercise his domination muscles and learn to be a better dominant and having the opportunity to learn by doing with me and pet is a good one for him. So that is now also a part of our lives.
We will see how that pans out. If it goes well, that gives me hope for our family as it grows together and also as it may expand. Boy is a very special part of my life and it is good for me to have him by my side, and if that can continue through my relationships so much the better.
There is another new thing I feel is worth blogging about. We are certainly a Leather family of the 21st century, as we have started a household wiki! It's fairly common for Leather and D/s households to have manuals, but being the products of our generation as we are, we've gone high tech and are utilizing wiki software for ours. It's a good move, actually, it lets our manual have branches and structure that is much harder to do in a linear manual.
In short, things are good. Busy, but good. I could talk in more detail about all of these issues but I'm tired and a little out of practise blogging. Perhaps it will come in future posts. :)
I had meant to do a big round up of 2012 before it ended but, well, as you can see, I didn't get around to it. I have a lot to update you on, so I figure it's time for a nice generic What's Been Happening sort of blog post.
Pet and I had our renegotiation on January 4th. Rather than explicitly state our next renegotiation is in six months, in six months we'll discuss whether we want to renegotiate or simply extend the period for another six months.
Not a huge amount changed, it was more that a lot of areas were simplified. I now control much more of her life than I did previously, but she still has complete freedom in some areas (such as her money and her sexual life). It's all in a good place that I feel good about, and I am enjoying this level of control while maintaining a level of irresponsibility. It's a sweet spot :) Don't get me wrong, I am looking forward to the deeper slavery type stuff eventually, but just because there's a goal doesn't mean I can't enjoy the ride an awful lot.
One thing that did change was that I now have complete control of her physical presentation, barring tattoos. It'll take some time before that effect will really be obvious (since I am not made of money and can't afford to just replace all her clothes in one fell swoop) but I did want to mark the occasion with something special so I took her to Piercing HQ, a kinkster owned piercing studio here in Melbourne, and I got her a septum piercing with a ring for the jewellery.
I'm not sure why, but septum rings have always appealed to me as a submissive piercing. *shrugs*!
I don't think people understand just how boring the negotiation process is - especially when it's run by me, and I'm terribly anal retentive and love paperwork a whole lot.
I mean we literally spend hours going over limits and boundaries and what powers I do and don't have. My limits and boundaries too, by the way, not just hers. We talk about potential issues and how they should be resolved. We talk about rules and protocols and punishments. For most people, it's an incredibly boring session of talking about boring things.
But I feel good when I have these talks. It lays everything out so there are no surprises. It lowers the chances of drama.
And I don't mind taking so long with these things. Pet and I are working towards a lifetime commitment. I see no reason why we shouldn't be taking it as slowly and carefully as possible.
The other big thing that happened was the solidifying of our hierarchy. Boy and pet had their own negotiation that I facilitated and also took part in, to work out their own thing. As it stands now, they also have a slight power exchange relationship. Boy wants to exercise his domination muscles and learn to be a better dominant and having the opportunity to learn by doing with me and pet is a good one for him. So that is now also a part of our lives.
We will see how that pans out. If it goes well, that gives me hope for our family as it grows together and also as it may expand. Boy is a very special part of my life and it is good for me to have him by my side, and if that can continue through my relationships so much the better.
There is another new thing I feel is worth blogging about. We are certainly a Leather family of the 21st century, as we have started a household wiki! It's fairly common for Leather and D/s households to have manuals, but being the products of our generation as we are, we've gone high tech and are utilizing wiki software for ours. It's a good move, actually, it lets our manual have branches and structure that is much harder to do in a linear manual.
In short, things are good. Busy, but good. I could talk in more detail about all of these issues but I'm tired and a little out of practise blogging. Perhaps it will come in future posts. :)
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