Well embarrassingly enough for me, no one asked any questions in March. Fortunately for me, this means I have more time to put towards packing.
Yes, we're moving house. To a much larger and much cheaper house.
Where finally I will be able to have a dungeon. :D
See you after the move, blog!
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Tuesday, April 2, 2013
Monday, March 4, 2013
Generic Update
Nothing of particular importance to blog about right now, so some general "here's what's going on" sort of updates.
Boy and I are well. I've noticed I've been talking about him less on this blog, and I'd like to reassure you that that's not a cause for concern. We've been together long enough now that there's not many surprises, and day to day stuff is just puttering along quite well.
He's very busy and so am I lately, and that's another reason there isn't much to talk about. We're trying to get our shit together to make moving house in a month or two easier.
Things with pet are going well also. We have been looking over our relationship and where it goes from here, and I am starting to put some thought into the practical aspects of moving from D/s to M/s, as that's a step we're looking to take fairly soon. "Soon" in this case means anywhere from three months to a year - we don't have an exact timeline right now and that suits me fine. We will talk about a firm timeline once a few headaches are out of the way - such as aforementioned me and boy moving house.
Since the move to M/s will include a lot of big changes, it needs a lot of thinking about and preparation. I will be taking full responsibility for pet, including her living situation (she'll move in with boy and me), her money, her lifestyle, everything. As it stands, I have the OPTION of enforcing control on many aspects of her life that I simply choose not to, but because it is optional it is not a responsibility. Since moving to M/s involves shifting a lot of things from being allowed to control something to being responsible to control everything, that requires a lot of careful thought and preparation from me.
There's a lot of talk on the internet about preparing for slavery from the bottom side of the equation - being ready to give up on freedoms in things you like as well as the ones you don't, for example - but there's not enough talk about the preparations for the Master, when it comes to Ms.
Planning living arrangements for your slave - where will they sleep, what will they eat, basic things like that. Planning financial arrangements for your slave - do they get pocket money, where do you allocate their resources for the good of the slave and the household, making sure there's an "escape fund" put aside for them, things like that. Planning lifestyle arrangements for your slave - handling their study or career, their chores around the house, their social calendar. Planning healthcare for your slave - making sure you're familiar and knowledgeable about their medical conditions and what they entail, planning health insurance (if you're unfortunate enough to live in America or another country without universal healthcare).
The thing is, one of the attractions of slavery is not having to worry about these things. The slave can trust their Master to take care of them. But that means, as a Master, that you need to be prepared to do that.
Mastery is paperwork. More paperwork than you'd think.
So that's what I've been doing when it comes to pet, recently. Thinking about the paperwork. :)
I also have an interesting meeting coming soon with someone I may be taking on as a protege. That's in a bit less than a week. I'll keep you updated.
So things are good for me at the moment. Busy and hectic and a little bit stressful, and not kinky enough, but good. :)
Boy and I are well. I've noticed I've been talking about him less on this blog, and I'd like to reassure you that that's not a cause for concern. We've been together long enough now that there's not many surprises, and day to day stuff is just puttering along quite well.
He's very busy and so am I lately, and that's another reason there isn't much to talk about. We're trying to get our shit together to make moving house in a month or two easier.
Things with pet are going well also. We have been looking over our relationship and where it goes from here, and I am starting to put some thought into the practical aspects of moving from D/s to M/s, as that's a step we're looking to take fairly soon. "Soon" in this case means anywhere from three months to a year - we don't have an exact timeline right now and that suits me fine. We will talk about a firm timeline once a few headaches are out of the way - such as aforementioned me and boy moving house.
Since the move to M/s will include a lot of big changes, it needs a lot of thinking about and preparation. I will be taking full responsibility for pet, including her living situation (she'll move in with boy and me), her money, her lifestyle, everything. As it stands, I have the OPTION of enforcing control on many aspects of her life that I simply choose not to, but because it is optional it is not a responsibility. Since moving to M/s involves shifting a lot of things from being allowed to control something to being responsible to control everything, that requires a lot of careful thought and preparation from me.
There's a lot of talk on the internet about preparing for slavery from the bottom side of the equation - being ready to give up on freedoms in things you like as well as the ones you don't, for example - but there's not enough talk about the preparations for the Master, when it comes to Ms.
Planning living arrangements for your slave - where will they sleep, what will they eat, basic things like that. Planning financial arrangements for your slave - do they get pocket money, where do you allocate their resources for the good of the slave and the household, making sure there's an "escape fund" put aside for them, things like that. Planning lifestyle arrangements for your slave - handling their study or career, their chores around the house, their social calendar. Planning healthcare for your slave - making sure you're familiar and knowledgeable about their medical conditions and what they entail, planning health insurance (if you're unfortunate enough to live in America or another country without universal healthcare).
The thing is, one of the attractions of slavery is not having to worry about these things. The slave can trust their Master to take care of them. But that means, as a Master, that you need to be prepared to do that.
Mastery is paperwork. More paperwork than you'd think.
So that's what I've been doing when it comes to pet, recently. Thinking about the paperwork. :)
I also have an interesting meeting coming soon with someone I may be taking on as a protege. That's in a bit less than a week. I'll keep you updated.
So things are good for me at the moment. Busy and hectic and a little bit stressful, and not kinky enough, but good. :)
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
Happy Birthday to Me!
It's my 27th birthday!
I've been a bit lax with blogging lately because, as is ironically usual - the more I have to blog about, the less time and energy I have to blog.
Things are going well for me, and for my family.
Recently my, boy and pet have started finally beginning getting comfortable together as a unit. Pet's been with us about six months now and thus we are finally settling into our dynamic with a little more comfort.
It's been very relieving for me. For so many years knowing that where I wanted to go in life was to build a Leather family, to having it slowly begin to happen, and having it feel exactly right.
Everything is going well. Life is good. Life will continue to get better.
I've been a bit lax with blogging lately because, as is ironically usual - the more I have to blog about, the less time and energy I have to blog.
Things are going well for me, and for my family.
Recently my, boy and pet have started finally beginning getting comfortable together as a unit. Pet's been with us about six months now and thus we are finally settling into our dynamic with a little more comfort.
It's been very relieving for me. For so many years knowing that where I wanted to go in life was to build a Leather family, to having it slowly begin to happen, and having it feel exactly right.
Everything is going well. Life is good. Life will continue to get better.
Wednesday, August 15, 2012
Slow and Steady Wins the Race
I've been talking with some other Dominants recently about what it's like to have more than one submissive. How to help everyone get along, how to iron out any wrinkles, how to ensure communication, how to handle jealousy, how to be the boss and the head of the household without losing your kindness and consideration for others' feelings.
One of the things I've noticed is that there is a trend among families that have more problems (aside from the obvious "communication issues" that are ALWAYS the biggest reason relationships have problems). They tend to move fast.
I've often considered my slowness when it comes to relationships and D/s and BDSM as something of a neutral flaw. That is, in itself it's neutral - but compared to everyone else who seems to move so quickly, it's considered a flaw by many people.
But now, I am not so sure. My slowness has been the thing that has made my relationships so stable and secure. Going slowly means I have time to think carefully about actions. Going slowly means I have time to understand what I'm getting myself into (and for those involved with me to do the same). Going slowly, setting the pace at something much slower than other people tend to like, is one of the reasons I think I am good at building solid, long-term relationships.
Obviously this isn't to say that people moving quickly can't also have solid, long-term relationships. It's not about black and white generalizations, it's about trends I've noticed.
I understand the temptation to move quickly, I do. Especially if you have a submissive who wants to give as much as they can, and they want you to use as much as you can. When you're offered someone on a silver platter, it's very easy to want to jump in head first.
It's the same as my attitude to play, actually - I would rather leave people wanting more. I want people to come down and go "oh my god, I want to do that again", rather than "that was fun, I'm satisfied now".
Pet has been with us for... a bit over four months now I believe, and at this point most M/s couples I know have moved in and are living the dream. But I refrain. Why?
Well, I'm still not used to her, for starters. I'm not used to her being around. I'm not used to dividing my attention between boy and someone else. I'm still getting accustomed to it all.
But it's also because I don't want to jump into the deep end. I never have been that sort of person. I would rather slowly work up to the deep end than jump right in. I'm the sort of person that gets into a swimming pool a centimetre at a time, whereas others jump in and get it over with.
And it's also because mine are not the only feelings at stake here. I have boy to think about, and I need to be able to handle him and how he is feeling about everything as well. (The answer, if you're curious, is quite well).
And that's what a lot of this comes down to in the end - it's not just about me. It's about everyone involved with me. And one can simultaneously believe that one's feelings and actions are one's own responsibility while also understanding that our own feelings and actions affect other people.
Anyway back to the point.
I believe that my slow moving is a good thing. It means I have time to consider everything carefully, and that means I have time to build solid, strong foundations in my relationships.
M/s and D/s is not a race to the finish line. They are relationship experiences. And while that means you can just jump in and go from zero to a hundred right away - there's absolutely no reason why you can't - personally, I prefer to go slowly.
I wouldn't know how to cope with a boyfriend or girlfriend that suddenly appeared, and likewise I wouldn't know how to cope with a slave just plopped in my lap instantly, I don't think. Perhaps if they came with LOTS of pre-training that was along the same lines of what I would do myself? Perhaps if I knew them as a slave for a long time before they became my slave? Hell, perhaps I could even cope as long as they could explain and demonstrate their desires very clearly to me before they became my slave. Who knows. Maybe experience is the answer. I don't know.
This is a very rambly post. Sorry about that.
At my tender age, in my late twenties, those who are interested in being involved with me are rarely experienced in D/s. So that means they need time to learn. But more importantly, I go slowly because I need to go slowly. It's the only way I can enjoy a relationship. I am lucky in that I believe my going slowly grants me a lot of benefits.
This is a really awful post, sorry about that dear readers. I really am just stream-of-consciousness-ing this.
I think what I'm trying to say is that unless both people entering into a relationship (ANY kind of relationship, not just D/s) are BOTH very experienced and self aware, then it's my personal belief that it's best to move slowly.
One of the things I've noticed is that there is a trend among families that have more problems (aside from the obvious "communication issues" that are ALWAYS the biggest reason relationships have problems). They tend to move fast.
I've often considered my slowness when it comes to relationships and D/s and BDSM as something of a neutral flaw. That is, in itself it's neutral - but compared to everyone else who seems to move so quickly, it's considered a flaw by many people.
But now, I am not so sure. My slowness has been the thing that has made my relationships so stable and secure. Going slowly means I have time to think carefully about actions. Going slowly means I have time to understand what I'm getting myself into (and for those involved with me to do the same). Going slowly, setting the pace at something much slower than other people tend to like, is one of the reasons I think I am good at building solid, long-term relationships.
Obviously this isn't to say that people moving quickly can't also have solid, long-term relationships. It's not about black and white generalizations, it's about trends I've noticed.
I understand the temptation to move quickly, I do. Especially if you have a submissive who wants to give as much as they can, and they want you to use as much as you can. When you're offered someone on a silver platter, it's very easy to want to jump in head first.
It's the same as my attitude to play, actually - I would rather leave people wanting more. I want people to come down and go "oh my god, I want to do that again", rather than "that was fun, I'm satisfied now".
Pet has been with us for... a bit over four months now I believe, and at this point most M/s couples I know have moved in and are living the dream. But I refrain. Why?
Well, I'm still not used to her, for starters. I'm not used to her being around. I'm not used to dividing my attention between boy and someone else. I'm still getting accustomed to it all.
But it's also because I don't want to jump into the deep end. I never have been that sort of person. I would rather slowly work up to the deep end than jump right in. I'm the sort of person that gets into a swimming pool a centimetre at a time, whereas others jump in and get it over with.
And it's also because mine are not the only feelings at stake here. I have boy to think about, and I need to be able to handle him and how he is feeling about everything as well. (The answer, if you're curious, is quite well).
And that's what a lot of this comes down to in the end - it's not just about me. It's about everyone involved with me. And one can simultaneously believe that one's feelings and actions are one's own responsibility while also understanding that our own feelings and actions affect other people.
Anyway back to the point.
I believe that my slow moving is a good thing. It means I have time to consider everything carefully, and that means I have time to build solid, strong foundations in my relationships.
M/s and D/s is not a race to the finish line. They are relationship experiences. And while that means you can just jump in and go from zero to a hundred right away - there's absolutely no reason why you can't - personally, I prefer to go slowly.
I wouldn't know how to cope with a boyfriend or girlfriend that suddenly appeared, and likewise I wouldn't know how to cope with a slave just plopped in my lap instantly, I don't think. Perhaps if they came with LOTS of pre-training that was along the same lines of what I would do myself? Perhaps if I knew them as a slave for a long time before they became my slave? Hell, perhaps I could even cope as long as they could explain and demonstrate their desires very clearly to me before they became my slave. Who knows. Maybe experience is the answer. I don't know.
This is a very rambly post. Sorry about that.
At my tender age, in my late twenties, those who are interested in being involved with me are rarely experienced in D/s. So that means they need time to learn. But more importantly, I go slowly because I need to go slowly. It's the only way I can enjoy a relationship. I am lucky in that I believe my going slowly grants me a lot of benefits.
This is a really awful post, sorry about that dear readers. I really am just stream-of-consciousness-ing this.
I think what I'm trying to say is that unless both people entering into a relationship (ANY kind of relationship, not just D/s) are BOTH very experienced and self aware, then it's my personal belief that it's best to move slowly.
Sunday, July 22, 2012
3am musings.
It is nearly 3am and it's been a while since I did just a good, generic update.
I am slowly - s l o w l y - getting accustomed to pet being here. At this very moment she is in the cage in the living room, I know not if she's asleep yet or if she's still getting there, but either way she is quiet and in 'bed'. Boy is also in bed, in his room of course.
Pet is here about four or five days a week at the moment. It's... interesting. I enjoy having her here, but I also enjoy having space from her. Things are very healthy between us for me, in that sense. I know many people go straight from "dating" (or "under consideration") to moving in, 24/7 TPE and so on within a month or two, but I am not that sort of person. Heck, it took years for me to agree to move in with boy! I need space to think and feel and be self aware about my life.
Regardless, I am getting used to her being here. Right now I still feel relaxed, though I am sharing the living room with her. Not as relaxed as I would if she were in another room, but still, I am okay.
Pet very much prefers to sleep in the living room. She feels lonely very easily and she likes to feel a part of the house. I think that's a very nice thing for a slave to feel. At first I wasn't sure I could deal with it (I like having the living room to myself in the wee hours), but I am doing okay. There is something very potent about knowing your submissive is on hand and accessible at all times. The downside is that it eliminates a lot of things I usually do to entertain myself in the wee hours, because they make a fair amount of noise.
I am noticing that I miss boy more these days than I did before. Pet only works two days a week, whereas boy works full time, so generally speaking it feels like I spend more time with her than I get with boy, and I don't really like that. I feel like I miss him a lot right now. I need to find a way to feel more connected to him - we already have a weekly 'date night', but perhaps we need to take that more seriously and look at our daily routines as well. I know I've started really appreciating bedtime, because regardless of who goes to bed first (usually him), the other goes and 'tucks them in', and we cuddle and we have a short talk before saying goodnight. I'm glad that at least no matter how busy life is, we get those few minutes every day.
In general, things are going well, though I do seem to live in a constant state of feeling rushed these days. There is always something demanding my attention. Perhaps I need to make sure to schedule alone time a little more carefully, rather than just accepting it whenever it comes along.
I am slowly - s l o w l y - getting accustomed to pet being here. At this very moment she is in the cage in the living room, I know not if she's asleep yet or if she's still getting there, but either way she is quiet and in 'bed'. Boy is also in bed, in his room of course.
Pet is here about four or five days a week at the moment. It's... interesting. I enjoy having her here, but I also enjoy having space from her. Things are very healthy between us for me, in that sense. I know many people go straight from "dating" (or "under consideration") to moving in, 24/7 TPE and so on within a month or two, but I am not that sort of person. Heck, it took years for me to agree to move in with boy! I need space to think and feel and be self aware about my life.
Regardless, I am getting used to her being here. Right now I still feel relaxed, though I am sharing the living room with her. Not as relaxed as I would if she were in another room, but still, I am okay.
Pet very much prefers to sleep in the living room. She feels lonely very easily and she likes to feel a part of the house. I think that's a very nice thing for a slave to feel. At first I wasn't sure I could deal with it (I like having the living room to myself in the wee hours), but I am doing okay. There is something very potent about knowing your submissive is on hand and accessible at all times. The downside is that it eliminates a lot of things I usually do to entertain myself in the wee hours, because they make a fair amount of noise.
I am noticing that I miss boy more these days than I did before. Pet only works two days a week, whereas boy works full time, so generally speaking it feels like I spend more time with her than I get with boy, and I don't really like that. I feel like I miss him a lot right now. I need to find a way to feel more connected to him - we already have a weekly 'date night', but perhaps we need to take that more seriously and look at our daily routines as well. I know I've started really appreciating bedtime, because regardless of who goes to bed first (usually him), the other goes and 'tucks them in', and we cuddle and we have a short talk before saying goodnight. I'm glad that at least no matter how busy life is, we get those few minutes every day.
In general, things are going well, though I do seem to live in a constant state of feeling rushed these days. There is always something demanding my attention. Perhaps I need to make sure to schedule alone time a little more carefully, rather than just accepting it whenever it comes along.
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Little Things
It pleases me very much when serina sits at my feet. Especially in non-obviously-kinky circumstances, like when we're watching tv. It always makes me smile to stroke her hair while she hugs my leg.
Sunday, May 13, 2012
Identity Crisis!
... well, not really ;)
I haven't done many rope suspensions in the last few months because I've been ill, or I've had other things to play with, and it seems people are starting to forget that suspension is my Thing(tm).
Anyway I miss rope a lot, and playing with it a little last night at Chains reminded me that it's my Thing(tm) for a reason.
Need to do more of it. I feel at my best when I'm doing rope.
Now I just need to find more bunnies to do rope on.
This has been a boring short entry. :)
I haven't done many rope suspensions in the last few months because I've been ill, or I've had other things to play with, and it seems people are starting to forget that suspension is my Thing(tm).
Anyway I miss rope a lot, and playing with it a little last night at Chains reminded me that it's my Thing(tm) for a reason.
Need to do more of it. I feel at my best when I'm doing rope.
Now I just need to find more bunnies to do rope on.
This has been a boring short entry. :)
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Family matters
I just got back from an interstate trip to my mother and sister's place to help sort through my father's things since he moved into a nursing home last month.
My father's currently in the ICU in Canberra. There's only a 50/50 chance he's coming back out again.
So I'm a little preoccupied right now. Sorry folks.
My father's currently in the ICU in Canberra. There's only a 50/50 chance he's coming back out again.
So I'm a little preoccupied right now. Sorry folks.
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Life
Sorry for the neglect, blog. I've been really sick this last month, and there's been other stressors like moving my father into a nursing home (which seems to have gone smoothly, which is good). BDSM and Leather haven't been forefront in my mind recently - not that I haven't been thinking about them, because goodness knows I always do, but I've just had other things that require more focus, and Leather has been something in the back of my mind rather than the front.
I do have some things to blog about, which hopefully I'll get to soon. But mostly I just wanted to say hi, and life is mad right now, and we'll return you to your regularly scheduled program as soon as possible.
I do have some things to blog about, which hopefully I'll get to soon. But mostly I just wanted to say hi, and life is mad right now, and we'll return you to your regularly scheduled program as soon as possible.
Friday, July 1, 2011
Busy busy busy
Oh boy blog, where to even start.
There's a lot going on with me. Stuff is very complex and I'm very busy at the moment, and unfortunately my disability has decided to be a pain in the ass at the same time.
I'm behind in emails something shocking, I'm stressed and busy and blaahhh.
I want to update you on something but I'm honestly not sure what to write about. At the moment a lot of my mental energy is dealing with my vanilla family (specifically my father and his dementia) and when I do have moments to spare to think about kink and sex I just find myself a little overwhelmed with desire but completely lacking energy. It's a rough place to be in.
The rehearsal for the high protocol dinner is this sunday, so that will be interesting to go along to. And hopefully it will ease many of my nerves about the whole affair.
I've got pretty high expectations of my boy for this dinner. I don't normally have high expectations (in fact I'm often rather lenient) so it will be interesting to see how he responds to the added pressure.
There's a lot going on with me. Stuff is very complex and I'm very busy at the moment, and unfortunately my disability has decided to be a pain in the ass at the same time.
I'm behind in emails something shocking, I'm stressed and busy and blaahhh.
I want to update you on something but I'm honestly not sure what to write about. At the moment a lot of my mental energy is dealing with my vanilla family (specifically my father and his dementia) and when I do have moments to spare to think about kink and sex I just find myself a little overwhelmed with desire but completely lacking energy. It's a rough place to be in.
The rehearsal for the high protocol dinner is this sunday, so that will be interesting to go along to. And hopefully it will ease many of my nerves about the whole affair.
I've got pretty high expectations of my boy for this dinner. I don't normally have high expectations (in fact I'm often rather lenient) so it will be interesting to see how he responds to the added pressure.
Thursday, June 16, 2011
Quick sexual/lifestyle frustration stream of consciousness post...
I adore my boy and everything he is and everything we have. Our dynamic is very much about support and service and thriving without struggle.
But sometimes… okay, lots of the time… I crave owning someone who has a desire to be pushed, phyiscally. Someone for whom physicality is a huge part of D/s. Someone who would enjoy things like hard bondage, long term bondage, uncomfortable bondage… things like not being allowed on furniture and sleeping full time in a cage (and someone for whom that was a real option, because as much as the boy wouldn’t mind that, it would conflict with his health and his job)… someone who would enjoy being pushed, enjoy the struggle, enjoy battling their inner selves out on the physical plane.
One day, I’m sure I’ll find them…
But sometimes… okay, lots of the time… I crave owning someone who has a desire to be pushed, phyiscally. Someone for whom physicality is a huge part of D/s. Someone who would enjoy things like hard bondage, long term bondage, uncomfortable bondage… things like not being allowed on furniture and sleeping full time in a cage (and someone for whom that was a real option, because as much as the boy wouldn’t mind that, it would conflict with his health and his job)… someone who would enjoy being pushed, enjoy the struggle, enjoy battling their inner selves out on the physical plane.
One day, I’m sure I’ll find them…
Thursday, June 2, 2011
Stuff and Things
There's a lot of heavy, heavy things going on with my blood family at the moment and I'm a bit (lol understatement) stressed out.
I don't really know why I'm writing this here, I suppose it's a heads up in case my updating continues to be a bit odd over the coming weeks.
I'm hoping to combat my stress with more play and fun than usual though so hopefully I'll have a lot to write about, even if it won't be very deep. :)
I don't really know why I'm writing this here, I suppose it's a heads up in case my updating continues to be a bit odd over the coming weeks.
I'm hoping to combat my stress with more play and fun than usual though so hopefully I'll have a lot to write about, even if it won't be very deep. :)
Thursday, May 19, 2011
100th Post!
So this is my 100th post to this blog!
I feel like I should do something important, like make a special post or run a contest or something, but honestly I can't think of anything. So I suppose I'll just talk about my life in Leather and where I'm at at the moment. That's still a pretty decent thing to do for my 100th post, I think.
So let's talk about the boy, first. Boy and I are doing very well. Our fifth anniversary is coming up in a bit over six months and I'm already freaking out about it a little - this is the longest and most successful relationship I've ever had (admittedly not that big of a deal at my young age of 25), and it shows no signs of cracking or going downhill any time soon. We suit each other very well and are very compatible both now and in the long term. Things are really good between us.
My own journey is plodding along very nicely. I am a slow sort of person by nature, I like to think about things a lot and move slowly, and I am moving perfectly well at my own pace. I am valuing the journey very much.
I am well connected in my community to many friends and acquaintances that enrich my life and make being a part of the community as important to my Leather life as my inclination to D/s. Even though I'm very shy and I'm still struggling with that (and probably will for some time yet), I have only ever been welcomed and treated with love and care.
I am passively in the market for a slave, but I am not looking very hard yet. I am still sorting out some details in my life before I worry about actively looking.
Despite recent challenges, my life is going extremely well and I feel that Leather enriches my life and fulfils me in a very important way.
So that's my 100th post. Life is good. I am happy.
I feel like I should do something important, like make a special post or run a contest or something, but honestly I can't think of anything. So I suppose I'll just talk about my life in Leather and where I'm at at the moment. That's still a pretty decent thing to do for my 100th post, I think.
So let's talk about the boy, first. Boy and I are doing very well. Our fifth anniversary is coming up in a bit over six months and I'm already freaking out about it a little - this is the longest and most successful relationship I've ever had (admittedly not that big of a deal at my young age of 25), and it shows no signs of cracking or going downhill any time soon. We suit each other very well and are very compatible both now and in the long term. Things are really good between us.
My own journey is plodding along very nicely. I am a slow sort of person by nature, I like to think about things a lot and move slowly, and I am moving perfectly well at my own pace. I am valuing the journey very much.
I am well connected in my community to many friends and acquaintances that enrich my life and make being a part of the community as important to my Leather life as my inclination to D/s. Even though I'm very shy and I'm still struggling with that (and probably will for some time yet), I have only ever been welcomed and treated with love and care.
I am passively in the market for a slave, but I am not looking very hard yet. I am still sorting out some details in my life before I worry about actively looking.
Despite recent challenges, my life is going extremely well and I feel that Leather enriches my life and fulfils me in a very important way.
So that's my 100th post. Life is good. I am happy.
Sunday, May 1, 2011
Oh, the last few weeks.
Where to even begin.
The unfortunate thing is that I'm unable to go into too many details.
The short version:
* Boy, of course, with his broken arm.
* Boy had some other health issues and we've been spending a lot of time at the doctor (he is doing fine at the moment).
* A dear friend is going through a rough patch and has moved in with us for a little while.
And there's probably more that I've forgotten. Hence the radio silence, you see!
The unfortunate side effect is that I've been missing the scene terribly. Boy and I still have our daily rituals but even some of those fell aside while he has been sick.
It's been... rough.
At any rate I am starting to turn back into a human, I am off to a fetish event tomorrow to get back into the swing of things. Boy and I have been talking a lot and things are moving. Huzzuh! And thus, this blog will not continue to be so empty :)
The unfortunate thing is that I'm unable to go into too many details.
The short version:
* Boy, of course, with his broken arm.
* Boy had some other health issues and we've been spending a lot of time at the doctor (he is doing fine at the moment).
* A dear friend is going through a rough patch and has moved in with us for a little while.
And there's probably more that I've forgotten. Hence the radio silence, you see!
The unfortunate side effect is that I've been missing the scene terribly. Boy and I still have our daily rituals but even some of those fell aside while he has been sick.
It's been... rough.
At any rate I am starting to turn back into a human, I am off to a fetish event tomorrow to get back into the swing of things. Boy and I have been talking a lot and things are moving. Huzzuh! And thus, this blog will not continue to be so empty :)
Monday, March 21, 2011
Busy busy busy
It's been a busy week or so! I've barely had time to think let alone blog, and boy do I have a lot of thoughts that I'll slowly let trickle out of my brain in the coming weeks.
Stuff that's happened in the last week or so:
* Two play parties, Chains Feat. Newbie Night and Provocation.
* The 1st Melbourne Fetish Awards.
* Melbourne Leather Dinner.
* First meeting of a local alternative pornography production team.
* Big Talks with the boy.
and probably more.
So I have a lot going on, but I've been faaarrrrr too fucked to write about it. But I'll start doing that soon. :)
In the meantime, my 100th post is coming up soon and I feel like I should do something special, but I have no idea what. If you have a suggestion, I'd love to hear it.
Stuff that's happened in the last week or so:
* Two play parties, Chains Feat. Newbie Night and Provocation.
* The 1st Melbourne Fetish Awards.
* Melbourne Leather Dinner.
* First meeting of a local alternative pornography production team.
* Big Talks with the boy.
and probably more.
So I have a lot going on, but I've been faaarrrrr too fucked to write about it. But I'll start doing that soon. :)
In the meantime, my 100th post is coming up soon and I feel like I should do something special, but I have no idea what. If you have a suggestion, I'd love to hear it.
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
New Toy!
The boy's chastity device arrived today! World record speed delivery from extreme restraints. I must say that I really enjoy their service and products. Even when posting to Australia things arrive quickly.
I opened it up and had a look. It's VERY shiny. I like it a lot.
I left it out on the table for when boy got home.
He came home and I made a big deal of showing it to him. Also, I told him that he wasn't allowed to touch it.
So I left it there, occasionally stroking it. I enjoy this form of torment. This thing that the boy wants so badly is right there in front of him, but he's not allowed to have it. To make it worse, it's something most people would run away from. I laughed and told him how lucky he is, that the device isn't on him, that he's allowed to have as many orgasms as he wants at the moment... because I'm so nice, you see, that's why the chastity device is just sitting there, not being on him.
There's a few aspects to this. One, of course, the boy is very much into chastity. But the more important thing is that the bird cage is a new toy, and whenever anyone gets a new toy they want to play with it. Having it just sit there, completely within reach but forbidden, is pretty much torture for the boy. But it's fun for me!
I was going to let him try it on before bed, but only if he wanted it badly enough. After the world's WORST begging, I decided that he really doesn't want it that badly. So he's gone to bed without touching it.
I'll be taking it into my room tonight, just to make sure he doesn't get any funny ideas about touching it tomorrow morning. :P
I opened it up and had a look. It's VERY shiny. I like it a lot.
I left it out on the table for when boy got home.
He came home and I made a big deal of showing it to him. Also, I told him that he wasn't allowed to touch it.
So I left it there, occasionally stroking it. I enjoy this form of torment. This thing that the boy wants so badly is right there in front of him, but he's not allowed to have it. To make it worse, it's something most people would run away from. I laughed and told him how lucky he is, that the device isn't on him, that he's allowed to have as many orgasms as he wants at the moment... because I'm so nice, you see, that's why the chastity device is just sitting there, not being on him.
There's a few aspects to this. One, of course, the boy is very much into chastity. But the more important thing is that the bird cage is a new toy, and whenever anyone gets a new toy they want to play with it. Having it just sit there, completely within reach but forbidden, is pretty much torture for the boy. But it's fun for me!
I was going to let him try it on before bed, but only if he wanted it badly enough. After the world's WORST begging, I decided that he really doesn't want it that badly. So he's gone to bed without touching it.
I'll be taking it into my room tonight, just to make sure he doesn't get any funny ideas about touching it tomorrow morning. :P
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Pervnerds
In stark contrast to my recent entry, I've been shaking my head a little (in the good way!) at BDSM clubs and the BDSM scene.
You see, a lot of people think BDSM clubs are scary, intimidating places. I suppose there's good reason for that - I mean people do go there to get beaten up or to beat up others, and that's pretty intense for our lizard brains to handle, even if it is something we're interested in ourselves.
But you see... perverts are all huge nerds.
This is true. Absolute truth. Trufax.
We laugh and heckle each other's beatings with cries of "sorry, I didn't see that, could you do that again?". We do tickle torture scenes. We have people come in costumes that would be just as much at home at a geek convention (last month's Kinky best dressed prize went to a dark stormtrooper).
And, like I took part in last night, we occasionally spend an hour squealing memes at each other across the club.
Nothing quite like a bunch of perverts in a hardcore serious business BDSM club reciting lines from Charlie the Unicorn loudly.
You see, a lot of people think BDSM clubs are scary, intimidating places. I suppose there's good reason for that - I mean people do go there to get beaten up or to beat up others, and that's pretty intense for our lizard brains to handle, even if it is something we're interested in ourselves.
But you see... perverts are all huge nerds.
This is true. Absolute truth. Trufax.
We laugh and heckle each other's beatings with cries of "sorry, I didn't see that, could you do that again?". We do tickle torture scenes. We have people come in costumes that would be just as much at home at a geek convention (last month's Kinky best dressed prize went to a dark stormtrooper).
And, like I took part in last night, we occasionally spend an hour squealing memes at each other across the club.
Nothing quite like a bunch of perverts in a hardcore serious business BDSM club reciting lines from Charlie the Unicorn loudly.
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
Bad Puppy
Something I've discovered in the last few days...
You know that "ahhh!" Bad Dog noise you make when you catch your dog doing something naughty? Then the dog gets that guilty expression and seems to shrink in size?
Mine works on people. :)
You know that "ahhh!" Bad Dog noise you make when you catch your dog doing something naughty? Then the dog gets that guilty expression and seems to shrink in size?
Mine works on people. :)
Friday, December 31, 2010
Last post for 2010
I wanted to get in a quick entry before the new year.
First, life blog housekeeping - Princess broke up with me. A week or two ago now (can't really remember). I'm doing fine, I had a lovely time seeing her over these last few months and I wish her all the best for the future.
In other news, tomorrow (well, more like in 8 hours or so, when 2011 begins) the boy will finally be released from his year of orgasm denial. He's been a very good boy and has had no orgasms throughout 2010. Finally, he can claim to be hardcore in one area of kink ;)
Finally, I will be ringing in the new year with a house party at mine, where we will have a spa, lube wrestling, and kinky goodness. And of course, I'll be spending it with people I adore, my chosen family, and my urban family.
First, life blog housekeeping - Princess broke up with me. A week or two ago now (can't really remember). I'm doing fine, I had a lovely time seeing her over these last few months and I wish her all the best for the future.
In other news, tomorrow (well, more like in 8 hours or so, when 2011 begins) the boy will finally be released from his year of orgasm denial. He's been a very good boy and has had no orgasms throughout 2010. Finally, he can claim to be hardcore in one area of kink ;)
Finally, I will be ringing in the new year with a house party at mine, where we will have a spa, lube wrestling, and kinky goodness. And of course, I'll be spending it with people I adore, my chosen family, and my urban family.
Thursday, December 23, 2010
A quick note
Dear the person who found my blog by googling "i didnt know i was intersex". You are welcome to drop me an email at not.in.denial@gmail.com if you need someone to talk to. :)
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