Wednesday, May 8, 2013

I'm back!

Oh boy, this last month has been a Thing.

I don't really want to talk about it, heh.  Suffice to say, stuff has been a headache at best and it's still not finished being a headache.

This last month or so has been awful for me, personally.  Aside from moving house, I've had to do a long term sleep study for a specialist (which has been awful), I lost a friendship, my health has been awful, money has been beyond tight, and to top it all off, my father died.

During that time, BDSM has taken a back seat, unsurprisingly.

What is interesting to me is watching the ways in which boy and pet deal with me being more or less out of commission.

Boy has made me very proud this last month.  He has gotten up and taken over things that needed attention that I wasn't able to deal with, he has taken good care of me, he has been an exceptional example of what a Leatherboy can be in times of stress.

Pet on the other hand, well.  I don't think she even realizes she's doing it, but it's clear to me that without a firm hand on her at all times she begins to lose the headspace.  I haven't done much about it yet because, as you may have guessed from my description of this last month, it has been a very low priority thing, and it's not that she's been a problem.

It's not that she's become rebellious or anything that severe.  But she has become less devoted, she has been less focussed, she has been less communicative.  Not to a degree that it's a problem, not by any means.  But it's something I've noticed.

I feel like this is actually a pretty good example of the difference between a boy/girl and a slave, actually.  When the Dominant is out of commission, how do they react?  Do they step up to look after things, or do they flounder?  Obviously it's not a one size fits all thing, but it is something that I think is very common.

Anyway, as I said, I don't have much to report.  Things are still very stressful here but will hopefully settle over the coming couple of weeks.  I hope you're doing better than I am, dear readers.


  1. I'm a newbie Dom who stumbled upon your blog a few months back. BDSM aside, though, you seem like such a passionate, intelligent, and lovely human being. I just stopped by to let you know how much I appreciate you putting your perspective out there for people like me to learn from.

    I do hope the stress settles down soon!

  2. Sir, i know that I struggle with similar issues when Master is preoccupied. It is sort of funny... I will really think that I am on my game too. I think it is the ebb and flow of giving and taking power. When He requires me to regain a certain amount of the power in order to serve Him better, it just on loan. I endeavor to become better at retaining the proper headspace. Good luck toYou and Your pet. kitten

  3. I am also very sorry to hear of Your loss. kitten